There is little that
he admits to not knowing, less that he does not love
arguing about. Ramesh Gandhi would have been a mahatma,
if he hadn't spotted the catch in that vocation early
enough. As it is, he is the genuine eccentric.

"That's how I discovered the mystery of the
universe," said Ramesh Gandhi. Coming from someone
else, that would have sounded flippant, or in bad taste.
From Ramesh it sounded as normal as 'pass the salt'.
"I found out that there is, in fact, no
mystery," Ramesh added, a moment later. He then
uncrossed his legs and extended them neatly in front of
him. There is a great compactness about his appearance.
From the top of his square-shaped, thick-haired head to
the tips of his carefully-shod feet, he looks perfectly
organised, like a geometrical diagram. Even the bushy
eyebrows have definite contours to them, and are neither
wild nor straggly. But there are tell-tale purple shadows
under his eyes, and the eyelids are puffed up.
Besides, there's his voice. That is something else again.
It is permanently hoarse from over use.
It
cascades upon the listener like a waterfall, it mangles
diction in its eagerness to get across an idea, it
grates, it growls, it turns harshly sweet and persuasive,
it exults, it draws the listener irresistibly with it on
its feverish journey from thought to thought.
"I am weary of life," Ramesh said at one point.
But that was a purely academic statement. Few men love
life's activities more. Industrialist, photographer,
fighter of causes, poet, self-taught intellectual,
Ramesh Gandhi is a true eccentric. "I began my quest
for the mystery of the universe when I was
thirteen," Ramesh stated perfectly seriously.
At that time Ramesh was going to school in Calcutta,
where his father, a Gujarati businessman, had emigrated
from Bombay. "It was thought that my father would be
able to make a better living in Calcutta than in
Bombay," Ramesh recalled. "Unfortunately, what
he earned was never enough..." But in other respects
he was a wonderful man. He loved his children madly and
constantly borrowed money in order never to let them feel
any want. He was the kind of father who noticed all the
little things about his children. If he knew that anyone
of them particularly liked a vegetable, he would quietly
refuse his own portion of it at meal times, giving some
excuse, so that it could go to the concerned child. He
was also an extremely tolerant man for his times. He
treated his wife with a gentle respect which in itself,
in his day, was a rather wonderful thing. As for the
children, there was nothing they could not discuss or
argue with him; no action that they needed to hide from
him.
While Ramesh was well into his search for the mystery,
the morality of his birth perplexed him. Precocious
Ramesh as a child (10 or 11) was very disturbed one day
and waited for his father to come home so that he could
confront him. When he arrived and saw his son restless,
he gently asked, Any problem? Ramesh replied,
Yes, a big one. I would like to know if I have any
responsibility in the process of my conception and
eventual birth..
His father patiently replied, You ought to know
very well that you couldnt have been
consulted. So, Ramesh said, I am
a product of your caring, your physicality, convention,
social obligation, need for perpetuation of clan,
security, sex, whatever, and not of my own volition,
right? His father replied, Absolutely. But
what is the point you are trying to make? Ramesh
replied, What is baffling me is, ethically and
morally, what is ones debt to ones parents,
from whom his or her existence emerges without his or her
will? And my inescapable answer is, unfortunately,
none.
His father pondered and said Yes, you are right,
you owe us nothing, but now that you have established
this, what would you do? How would you plan your
life?
Ramesh said, Well, if I dont die or kill
myself, at least I will not bring a child of my
own. Then his father laughed and felt that he had
the clinching argument. He said, How do you know
your child also would ask you such a question? But
Ramesh had a reply for that, too. He quickly chortled,
If my child were not to ask me such a question,
nothing lost in having such a stupid child. On the other
hand, if I were to be asked such a question, I am a
coward; I would not have the courage to bear the burden
of somebody elses existence when I find my own
already unbearable. [excerpted, to be
completed]
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